The lovely author, Kathleen Smith is my tenth guest @KevinSwarbrick 'Deliciously Scandalous Blog Tour'. Another great interview not to be missed ;)

Once again thank you for joining me on my, 'Deliciously Scandalous Blog Tour'. I have been very surprised to see the amount of support there has been. I wont be thanking the authors this week, they already know how grateful I am for having them on here ;)  Really though, I will thank you the reader for following this tour each week, and enjoying the interviews as much as you are doing. I never knew it would be this successful, OK I might of had a little idea or I wouldn't have done it, 'Giggles'. Really though, you're amazing!! Thank you to you all for your time including my guest :) Here's a little about my next guest. Yes there was a note in my virtual office just incase ;) 

Kathleen Smith is a mother of 3 and lives in Upstate New York. She has a desire to share her story in hopes that it will help others understand what feelings one has when going through miscarriages

Kevin, thanks for the opportunity

Hey, please take a seat Kathleen, it really is great to have you here. I will have to get on with the first question as my virtual mind is running a little behind on things at this end. I am all on track now and ready to go, but first let me have a sip of my virtual beer... Just what I needed :)

Sometimes in life we all want more than what we can have, but if you had one wish to have anything or anyone, what would that wish be and why?

I really have everything I think I could possibly want or need. However when it comes to my book, Where should I start?! Picking one thing is really hard. The fact that people are reading my book is still amazing to me. I do wish that I could go on a Talk Show like “The Today Show” and talk about my book, why I wrote it, how it helped me get through my own miscarriages. How it’s helped other women to get through their miscarriages. I would like to be able to share my experiences with a wider audience.

There is nothing stopping you doing that, its a story so many people can relate too. In my story 'Passion' my partner at the time had a miscarriage only for me to find out at later date, it was all some twisted sick game that was going on in her mind, that was just a pinch of what happened, but boy writing it all down for me and knowing that people are relating to it is an awesome feeling. I am sorry for your tragic losses, but I am glad you are strong enough to share your experiences with others    

I would like you to make a short story up using no more than 400 words containing every one of these 14 key words; Hen, Game, Nail, Cock, Figure, Window, Government, Dog poo, Sex, Lamp, Spoon, Hole, Flame, DM!

That short story isn't going to happen.

...Ok Kathleen, I will do it for you, but be warned, 'Giggles'... We just couldn't believe what we were hearing, the sounds of the audience when their faces dropped when I told them there was no story. It was like they all received a DM from the Government, I tried to explain why, but then I could see a couple in the back row making out and having sex! I stood there on stage and I couldn't believe what I was seeing. I walked out in disbelieve and thought 'that's it I am going home!' When I left this building there was a hen party over the road, these women had a blow up cock in their hands playing some kind of game. I could see through the pub window near what appeared to be an open flame fire, I could see a lady figure all over some guy. Just then 'splat' I felt my foot land in something moist, I looked down and I had stood in some dog poo. I looked back at the pub to see what it was called, 'The Golden Spoon'. It looked like a right shit hole. I made my way to my car only to find I had a flat Tyre with a nail sticking out, the other three wheels where gone! That's the last time I do a show in Bradford! That was so easy, 'Giggles' ;)

When I first started writing I had a lot of negative people around me, I know I  had to lose that energy in order to continue writing and fulfilling what others thought I couldn't do. Did you ever experience any of this when you first started writing or were you lucky enough to have the right support around you?

When I decided to start writing my book nobody knew I was doing it. I made the decision not to tell ANYONE except for my husband. He was very supportive of it and me. I didn't want anyone else to know about it until I was completely finished and published in fear that I wouldn't or couldn't finish it.

I can understand that, I know I did the opposite, I think I took my Facebook on my journey at the time, I had written a blog post and did what promotion I could at the time before the story was even finished:)

If you had a chance to run any country and make a difference, what county would it be and why?

The United States, and I have a few conservative political agenda items I would like to put in place.

That sounds interesting, but like the story as you say; it isn't going to happen. 'Giggles'.

What would you say the worse thing a reader has ever said to you and what was your reaction?

The Worse thing a reader has ever said (written) about my book was the bad review my book got on Amazon. It just about made me cry. The title of the review was “Don’t Bother”, and of course they gave me one star. It came down to them having a different worldview than I have, and they didn't agree with how I dealt with my experiences in my book.

What is wrong with some people? We are all individuals with our own experiences, some people will relate to them and others won't. A very wise man once said to me, 'Don't let a few bad apples get to you'. You're an inspiration to others and boy you will get bad apples along the way. I could write a list of bad apples, but I will save them for the characters in my books. Speaking bad apples... 

I would like you to vision yourself walking down a busy high street with your partner and suddenly there was a noise that came from his bottom and people turned around looking at you, what would your reaction be and why?

I would probably smile and ignore it.

'Giggles', Smiles are always good, now...

Use only two words that would describe you?   I’m not good at describing myself. Maybe you should ask my husband J.  He would say persistent and persistent.

Have you ever been…
A, The owner of a lonely heart
B. The owner of a broken heart
C. None of the above?    

I don’t know

Let me finish, 'Giggles'. If the answer is C, please can you tell the reader how you have done it, I can see the reader would be interested to know that one, I know I am.

I am going into my nineteenth year of marriage... I don’t remember having an A, I don’t remember having a B.... I am quite pleased with the current situation.

Now that is awesome and all I can say is how lucky you have been. Broken hearts are never any fun. I think mine is made of stone now, ok it's not that bad, but still it's a hard nut to crack. Lets move on from nuts...

Its time for a little fun, I would like you to do the rhyme ‘Humpty Dumpty’. Using your own words and without holding back.... 

You certainly do ask interesting questions. Or perhaps just unusual. Or perhaps you are just British? Maybe I’m just having some cultural confusion.

Awww no so that's your way of telling me I have to do it. I thought every one knows, Humpty Dumpty. He's that chubby dude that fell off the wall, and all the kings horses and all the king's men, couldn't put chubby together again. Something like that. It could be a culture confusion though, even I don't understand my own little world. Still this little world has brought me here chatting with you, so it's not all bad. I will do the rhyme now before I forget, 'Kev's Style'... 

Kevin, Kevin no holding back
Kevin, Kevin got a good slap, 
All the women and all the men wanted to do it all over again!

Or you could have, 

Kevin Swarbrick writes it all,
cause he knows he can never fall.
He used to let the negative drive him down, but he knew the positives would soon be around!

Sorry I am just showing off now, something us Brits tend to do, 'giggles'.


When you are writing, do you ever think, 'Erm my partner and me did that last night, that has to go into the story as?

Sorry, I don’t think this one applied. Of course, my book is mostly about my husband and I, and the situations we went through in our life—so perhaps I did do this at one time.

'Slapping myself on my fore head very hard'. I know it was a silly question. Why did I even ask? I am all nervous now what else to ask you, my heart is beating like a drum...

If you could be a musical instrument, what would you be and why?

The Saxophone.  I love the way it sounds.

It sure does sound great, I have watched Lisa play that on the Simpson's and it sounds great. Oh my did I just give a confession that I watch the Simpson's. Shhh let's keep that between us two. Not that I have the time to watch any TV these days. My life is at a full steam juggling mode at this end...

If you could change one thing about you as a person, what would that one thing be? 

I wouldn't mind being a little taller.

I ditto that. Where are you? Only joking, I am only 5 foot 7 inches, my hair makes me 5.8, 'Giggles'. It was a good job I was sitting down for my fist kiss. We were the same height...  

I know we all remember our first kiss, would you say yours was a good experience or a bad one?  Please explain why. 

It was great! It was with my husband when we went for our first date together on a country road and it started to rain. Then next thing we knew the birds were chirping.

Erm that sounds like you had a night of wild fun to me. Awesome... I know my first kiss I would of rather had a soaking wet sponge chucked in my face. Still I was a kid lol...

Do you ever remember a part in your life that’s made a huge impact on you as a person. If so would you like to share that part with the reader?

The biggest thing that made a huge impact on my life was when I made the decision to live my life for Christ no matter what.  I grew up in a traditional Roman Catholic home, where a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, a more “evangelical” style Christianity was not emphasized. When I was 8 my parents really started to question what they believed—our home life changed. We went from going to Catholic Mass to going to a Pentecostal style church—imagine going from quiet priests, to people with their hands in the air and a band up front! It was quite the experience. I wasn't sure what I wanted for myself—and at 8 that can be tough. This new church emphasized Jesus as a person, as someone to have a relationship with, and when I was 9 I chose to have faith in that saviour, not the “religion” of Catholicism I had known before. It changed my life—even at such a young age. I go through things everyday that I know are different because of that decision.

Wow, that really is a change, I have never been a religious person as such, every time I said a prayer it never was answered and He just dealt me more rubbish to deal with! I sort of lost my faith in God back then, but now my eyes are open and I do see a new a bigger picture towards life. There is a part in my book where I say, 'she was like an angel sent down to me'. I can honestly say that maybe she was, maybe this was God's way of making me venture on this writing journey and giving me the right kick up the arse I needed to get these fingures working some magic. All I know is I do have my faith back and I wouldn't mind jumping up and down in a church clapping my hands and singing that I have, and on that note before I go too deep...

Who inspired you to write or was it always a dream to be an author?

I wanted to write a book about what it was like to go through have miscarriages with my husband. He didn't want to write a book with me and I didn't feel like it was something I could do on my own so I just kept dreaming about it.  One day after talking with a friend of my who had her own miscarriage, realizing that we both had the same feelings and questions I then realized writing a book about how I got through my own 3 miscarriages was something I wanted to do on my own. I wanted other women to realize they aren't alone. There many, many women who have had at least one miscarriage and they need to know they’re not alone. My book let’s them realize this and I share how I got through my own miscarriage, kept my marriage together and strengthened my relationship with God. Both things not easy to do during and after miscarriages, yet I did it.

I can understand that, to me your heart was hurting and it was crying out to write, you wanted others to feel the pain and suffering that you felt and I can say that this is God's way of making you the person you are today, no matter how horrific it all must have been, you are here to share your story. Since coming into this author business, I have read so many different stories on how people became to be an author, and each one is so unique, but yet with all the hurt or even fun times as some cases may be, we all share the same passion and that passion is for writing and helping others overcome their ordeals. I do think that is pretty awesome. I know your story will capture hearts of millions and hopefully billions out there, just don't let bad apples stop you doing that. Like I said you are an inspiration to many out there including myself, and I do wish you all the success and happiness this world has offer, but before I do that......

Can you tell the reader about your latest work and also tell the reader where they can find you.

                         WebSite http://kathleensmith.org

(See last answer for info on my latest, and only work—to find out more about me, here are some links)

Links  Kindle, http://bit.ly/mamkindle , Nook http://bit.ly/mamnook , Paperback http://bit.ly/mamamzn  and iBookstore http://bit.ly/mamibook

Website http://kathleensmith.org

Goodreads, http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/5223621.Kathleen_Smith

Facebook,  http://bit.ly/mamfb

Twitter, https://twitter.com/srkbear

Kevin, thanks for the opportunity!

It has been a pleasure to have you here and like I said before you are an inspiration to many out there including me. Keep up the fantastic work and I wish you and your husband and wonderful happy prospect life together... Until next week that's me and Kathleen out of here. We hope you enjoyed the interview and we would also like to wish you a wonderful weekend :)

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